- Nov 27, 2024
- 4 min read
Ah, the elusive “girl’s girl.” You’ve probably heard the term thrown around on social media, in your friend group, or maybe even in that awkward icebreaker at work when a girl said, “I’m not really a girl’s girl, you know?” Cue the side-eyes. But what exactly is a girl’s girl, and why does it feel like a title every woman secretly aspires to have?
Let’s break it down.
What is a Girl's Girl?
A girl’s girl is that unicorn of a human who truly, unapologetically supports other women and is confident in her value. She’s your hype woman when you’re doubting your outfit, the person who genuinely claps for your wins (even if she’s having a bad day), and the one who doesn’t immediately spill your secrets after one margarita. She’s not about competing or tearing others down—she’s about uplifting because she is happy. Like they say happy, high self-esteem and confident people don't tear others down.
Basically, a girl’s girl is the embodiment of the phrase, “women supporting women.” No mean-girl energy, no weird backhanded compliments, and definitely no “I just get along better with guys” energy. (We see you, pick-me girl, and this isn’t your club.)
Why Do We Love a Girl's Girl?
Because life is hard enough without adding sabotage into the mix. We’ve all been that girl sitting in a bathroom stall, trying to piece together the remnants of our self-esteem after some random stranger at a party said, “That dress is so brave on you!” A girl’s girl is the antidote to all that nonsense.
She’s the one who’ll hand you a tissue, remind you that your eyeliner is pure artistry, and gently assure you that the only thing worth questioning at this party is why you’re not already celebrating how incredible you are.
Now, if you're thinking, “I want to be that girl!” — great news: You can be! Here are five tips to help you join the club.
5 Tips to Become a Girl’s Girl
1. Stop Seeing Other Women as Competition
Listen, Becky’s new promotion or Sarah’s flawless winged eyeliner is not a personal attack on your existence. A girl’s girl knows that another woman’s success doesn’t diminish her own. Celebrate your fellow queens! Compliment freely, and remember that her crown doesn’t make yours any less shiny.
Bonus: Compliments cost $0 and instantly make someone’s day. Win-win!
2. Master the Art of Hyping
Every girl’s girl is a professional hype woman. You don’t need a certificate; just an enthusiastic, “YAS, QUEEN!” when your friend sends you a mirror selfie. Be the type of person who turns the group chat into a support group for fabulousness.
Pro tip: The louder the reaction, the better. Use emojis liberally. Overuse caps lock. Make her feel like she just won an Oscar for Best Dressed.
3. Master Your Confidence First
That little voice in your head—the one that sometimes questions other people’s choices? It’s often a reflection of your own insecurities. Instead of focusing outward, turn inward. A girl’s girl builds her confidence by doing the work: dive into self-help books, explore shadow work, and embrace personal growth.
When you’re grounded in your own worth, you won’t feel the need to judge others. Confidence looks good on everyone, whether it’s dressing how you want to and showing up as your most authentic self or even just saying how you truly feel about the situation. Respect everyone's journey—and celebrate your own.
4. Don’t Be the Gossip Girl
Sure, spilling tea is fun, but don’t let it boil over into unnecessary drama. A girl’s girl knows the difference between sharing funny stories and spreading rumours. If someone trusts you with their secrets, honour that trust.
And no, texting “But don’t tell anyone I told you this…” doesn’t count as honouring.
5. Show Up When It Counts
Being a girl’s girl isn’t just about clapping for Instagram posts—it’s about showing up in real life, too. Did your friend just go through a breakup? Show up with wine and snacks. Is she nervous about a job interview? Spam her with motivational memes.
The smallest gestures can mean the most. Because at the end of the day, being a girl’s girl is about being there—cheering, comforting, and sometimes just handing over a slice of pizza when words won’t do.
Final Thoughts
Being a girl’s girl isn’t about being perfect; it’s about being intentional. It’s about recognizing that we’re all navigating this wild thing called life and deciding to make it a little brighter for each other.
The next time you see another woman winning, remind yourself that her success doesn’t take away from your own. Instead of asking, “Why not me?” reflect on your own journey—your goals, your growth, and the path that’s uniquely yours. Celebrate her win as proof that amazing things are possible, and let it inspire you to keep striving toward your own greatness. When you focus on your journey, your light will shine just as brightly.
Now go forth and spread those girl’s girl vibes. And remember: the world has enough pick-me girls: it needs more Queens xoxo